I will be very blunt with you. These are the signs that wisdom is eluding you. If you can identify yourself with any of these, know that you are in crisis and you need help!
# 1 YOU HAVE NOT BUILT ANYTHING
By wisdom a house is built! – Proverbs 24:3a
If at this stage in life, you can’t put your name to anything, then you are in big trouble!
One sure sign of wisdom is the ability to build. Don’t leave the face of this earth without building something!
To be more specific, you must at least build a house! A house can be defined as:relating to a firm, institution, or society. It can also be defined as a building in which people meet for a particular activity.(source-Google search)
You can’t work for over three years and not show any intention of building. And before you go into defensive mode about how small your income is, you will be surprised to discover that someone earning far less than you is already building a house!.
I had the shock of my life when I recently met a guy in my neighborhood. It has been a while since I saw him and his explanation was that he had recently moved to his own house with his family. I couldn’t believe it, because my meagre salary was even five times more what this dude earns, so how on earth could he have built a house whilst I could not boast of a single block!
I immediately realized that wisdom was eluding me and had to change gears!
You can easily measure the wisdom of a country by observing the structures and buildings in that particular country!
Serious and wise leadership brings about growth and sustainable infrastructural development. The opposite is very true!
Remember that a house is not built with money, but by wisdom. God being so kind has adminished us that if anyone lacks wisdom, he should ask Him, and He won’t withold it
“James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
Are you always in debt and most of the times have no clue how you are going to pay or service it? It is a sign of lack of wisdom.
Some of the cause s of debt are spending beyond your means and impulse buying.
If you desire to live a “larger than life” lifestyle, then you must make a “larger than life income” You don’t spend monies which don’t belong to you.
Many of the youth today will die broke and poor becuase they prefer status to financial independence.
For them it is all about which label or brand of shoes you are wearing. Wheteher your suits/dress has an italian/french label on it,which restaurant do you eat ,what kind of wine or champagne you pop and the type of cars you drive etc.
Anytime I see our youth touting their gross senselessness, my heart weeps for them, becase all I see is future liabilities to an economy which is barely trying to survive.
It is even amazing how in the developed world, students rely on bicycles to move to and fro for lectures but not in Africa, where our students prefer to own cars and move around with some pomp, unnecessarily spending monies they have not yet acquired the capacity to earn!
I wonder how many students use bicycles on our university campuses even in Ghana.If such a guy asks a lady out, will she even accept?
Banks also encourage financial recklessness so that they can make monies off you. It is amazing how banks can pester you for loans all in the name of helping you prosper. It is never true. You are rather making them prosperous by paying those huge interests on the monies you took from them.
Taking bank loans is not entirely a bad thing, but make sure the monies you borrow are invested into projects that has long term benefits.
Remember that a borrower is a slave to the lender. Once you have a loan on your head, it changes your thinking patterns and limits you on your choices.
I will recommend the book “The Millionaire Next Door” to read, where you will discover that most of America’s millionaires are ‘ordinary Joes’in the streets , who live below thier means, drive mostly second hand cars but yet have extraordinary bank accounts and immense financial power.
To conclude, it is better to lead an ordinary live and have an extraordinary bank account than to live an extraordinary life and be in debt.
“Better to be a nobody and yet have a servant than pretend to be somebody and have no food”.Proverbs 12:9
Be wise, live below your means and don’t spend monies which do not belong to you!
#3 YOU KEEP BAD COMPANY
Our grannies use to say “ show me your friend and I will show you your character” This is a timeless truth. You can easily judge how wise a person is by the kind of friends he hangs out with.
Do not be deceived; “Bad company corrupts good manners” -1 Corinthians 15:33
An eaglet who hangs out with chicken will soon start running away from the hawk!
Your friends have more influence on you than you ever imagined. So choose them carefully.
Jim Rohn once said that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”
If you are always fond of saying that” as for these friends of mine, they are very foolish” then know that you are just like them.
Seek the company of wise peaople and cut out any unwise friends. Folish friends are like garbage, whose stench will drive away every good thing meant to come your way.
To give you a clue of who a foolish friend is, he/she is simply the type who always arouses the worst in you, a friend who fuels your appetite for sin and vices and feeds your weakness
On the other hand a wise friend will always bring the best in you.Always challenging and provoking you to become better.
No matter how much you are emotionally attached to your ” partner in crime” it is time to cut them off now before you are destroyed. Be wise!
#4 YOU ARE WICKED
“Doing wickedness is like sport to a fool “- Proverbs 10:23a
Wickedness, defined as the quality of being evil or morally wrong is a symptom of lack of wisdom. Folly often manifests itself as wickedness and immorality.
Are you constantly involved with vices and immorality which is detrimental to yourself and others? Do you delight in causing pain and anguish to others ?Know for certainty that you lack wisdom.
A senior in school wo enjoys bullying and inflicting pains on his juniors is not wise.
A madam who mistreats her maidservants is not wise.
A worker who mistreats his gateman/security is not wise.
Even wickedness to animals is a sign of glaring folly!
Never allow people close to you ever regret for coming across you. Anytime people think about you, it should bring warmth and happiness into their hearts and not tears and pain.
A foolish son is a grief to his father and bitterness to her who bore him -Proverbs 17:25
#5 YOU HAVE STOPPED INVESTING IN KNOWLEDGE
Man is wired to always seek knowledge. That is the only way you can function properly. Man’s basic instincts is no different from animals and those who rely only on their basic instincts will surely behave no more than animals.
You brain is as good as the amount of knowledge you expose yourself to.
Many of us stopped seeking knowledge immediately after school. Some of us even went to the extent of burning/ throwing away our books.
Going to university does not equip you with all the knowledge you require in life, it only helps you develop the skills of acquiring knowledge. Unfortunately, many of us part ways with the discipline of seeking knowledge since completing school.
Wherever you are and whatever you are involved in, you can become better and more effective by seeking knowledge in that particular field. Knowledge can be acquired primarily through books( including audio books), workshops, mentorship etc.
‘Wise men store up knowledge” -Proverbs 10:14a
In our part of the world, some only love to pray but abhor knowledge. The disciples of Jesus even needed to learn how to pray effectively at one point. If you can spend six hours in prayer and cannot spend an hour reading even the Bible, then you have a problem
Remember that passion and zeal without knowledge is like a big ship on dry ground!
If throughout this year, you have not invested in improving your knowledge, then know that folly is at your door steps.
#6 YOU CAN’T SUBMIT TO AUTHORITY
One measure of a person’s wisdom is his ability to submit to authority and instructions.
Rebellion is no sign of strength, it rather portrays a fundamental error and weakness in your psychological make up.
Your breakthrough is tied to an instruction. You will never have the capacity to exercise authority if you lack the ability to submit to authority.
“A fool despiseth his father’s instruction: but he that regardeth reproof is prudent”. –Proverbs 15:5
# 7 YOU LOVE SHORT CUTS
There is one key thing which governs the function of the universe, it is called process. Any good thing takes time. The only thing that does not require time and process is destruction. Hence if you have a knack for taking shortcuts, know that you have already activated your “self destruct” button.
If a baby is removed from its mother’s womb by the 3rd month instead of 9th month, it is called abortion. The difference between a baby and aborted foetus is process.
God knew the earth had capacity to accommodate billions of people but yet He created only two people in the beginning.
The fact that a baby is born with a penis doesn’t mean it can start having sex the following day!
Learn to go through the grind and master your craft before you become a liability and ridicule in the future.
All these “sakawa” and yahoo boys only epitomizes folly.
Even there is so much foolishness in our schools, primarily evident by students insatiable quest for “apor”( leaked papers)”Be different, be wise!
There is nothing as miserable and despicable than finding yourself at the top and discovering that you do not have what it takes to stay there, simply becuse you took a short cut.
My pastor normally says “if you take short cuts, you will cut your life short!
To the ladies who belive in ‘using what they have to get what they want’, my advise is that instead of relying on what is between your thighs, rather rely on what is between your ears.
Develop your capacity, hone your skills and you will go far in your career than you ever dreamed of. At the end of the day, nobobody, can take it away from you!
#8 YOU DON’T RESPECT AND HONOR YOUR PARENTS
A wise person respects his parents. Your parents with all their flaws and shortcomings demand respect and honor from you.
You must learn to honor and respect them. It still remains a mystery to me regarding the emphasis God places on this ancient truth.
Many young people have found their early graves simply because they chose to disregard their parents.
Be wise, why must you die early and hinder your prosperity because you can’t honor your parents?
If someone curses their father or mother, their lamp will be snuffed out in pitch darkness.Proverbs 20:20
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth” Ephesians 6:1,2
You have no right to despise and mistreat your parents, becuase in your estimation, they were not responsible enough, or didn’t provide you with the foundation to succeed. You should be lucky they didn’t abort you!
Do not activate ancient curses and quench your life because you have decided to judge and despise them.
If you are currently bearing a grudge with your parents no matter the reason, i put it to you that folly has overwhelmed you.
Amend your ways quickly, and get back on track before your light is snuffed out!
#9 YOU ARE LAZY
“Poor is he who works with a negligent hand, but the hand of the diligent makes rich” – Proverbs 10:4
Laziness is the quality of being unwilling to work or use energy; idleness.
Laziness is a fruit of foolishness. Laziness and wisdom are never bed-fellows. You can’t be lazy and wise at the same time.
One area of laziness suffocating the average person is mental laziness. Unfortunately many Christians are culprits in this area.
The bible even said that God will do exceedingly abundantly above what we THINK or ASK!
You need to put your energy to use. Be part of something. Work with urgency and purpose. Don’t while away time at the work place waiting for the magic number 5pm to hit!
More importantly, put your mind to use, always bring something to the table. Continue to review and find out how you can make things better!
Until you start being diligent, you are nowhere near the path of wisdom.
# 10 YOU ARE NOT CONSISTENT
I know your deeds; you are neither cold nor hot. How I wish you were one or the other. So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth. – Revelation 3:16
A characteristic about wisdom is consistency. People should know what they are getting anytime they deal with you. A great striker scores on a consistent basis. A great musician maintains the discipline for timeless performances on a consistent basis.
Nowadays we have a lot of “one- time hits” who are nowhere to be found the next day.
People keep shifting goal posts and it has increasingly become difficult to come across people who will stand by their words even if it hurts. You can’t even count on your friends when you are in trouble because they are likely to desert you.
These kind of inconsistencies in our society is a symptom of waning wisdom.
You can’t be promoted at your work place if you are inconsistent. Consistency is everything. Even the Bible stressed on the consistency of Jesus by declaring that” He is the same yesterday, today and forever”
I challenge you to become a reliable and consistent individual. Become a person who others can always count on.
If people cannnot always count on you, you will never be counted among the great.
So endeavor to be wise going forward. Shun all self destruct tendencies and develop habits that will make you win in life.
From the desk of ROL