Hard Work vs. Prayer- Which is the Most Important?

One day a young man walked to a godly rich man and asked him? If I want to succeed in life,which one is more important: Prayer or hard work?
The rich man smiled and asked the young man to follow him to his backyard garden. There he pointed to a young unhealthy plant and then fetched a cup of fertilizer. He then asked the young man, which of the two must I focus on in order to get bumper harvest from this plant in the future? The young man replied that he will need both the plant  and the fertilizer. He continued to explain that the plant was looking unhealthy because it lacked some essential nutrients and if the old man nurtures the ailing plant with the fertilizer, it will recover and blossom into full strength.

The old man then said, my son, you are right! As much as a plant requires fertilizer to provide the essential nutrients it lacks for it to fully blossom, hard work will also require prayer for it to fully pay off.

So you cannot substitute one for the other. Prayer without hard work is just a self tickling exercise. It will make you feel good but you will be unproductive and poor.If you pack loads of fertilizers without ever applying them to the plants, it will only occupy space.

On the other hand,hard work without prayer opens you up for the negative elements of this world to annul your efforts and limit your potential, just like the young tree which was not looking healthy because it was trying to depend on the scanty nutrients in its surroundings to grow.

So work with all your might and pray with all your heart.

Unleash the power of prayer unto the soil of your efforts and see God make something beautiful with your life.

From the desk of ROL

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Imagine you just bought a new cab, went ahead and handed it over to a driver. Your expectation is that this cab will generate revenue and at least you will reap the investment you made in a couple of years .

So this cab driver starts working, all seems to be going on very well, he enjoys the bragging rights of having the latest cab in town and is making good money.

But then after a while the cab starts developing problems, the driver  in the spirit of ownership and responsibility, tries to solve the car problems on his own. After all he feels it is his own, he drives it anywhere he wants and takes care of it according to his own terms.

After a while, the taxi driver realizes that he does not have the capacity to deal with the problems the car keeps throwing at him. So he decides to end it all- set fire to the cab and burns it all to ashes. After all, No cab, no trouble.



How will you feel as the cab owner, when you get to know that the asset you invested in has been burnt to ashes by the person you hired to take care of it?

I guess you will be so much incensed and demand that the driver pay back your asset in full. The cab driver is likely to find himself behind bars for such unpardonable offense.

Bottom line is the fact that, though he drives and keeps the car most of the times, that doesn’t make it his own, so he has no right whatsoever to decide to destroy the car  no matter his “genuine” reasons.

In the same vein, our lives does not belong to us, we are mere stewards of the body and life God has bestowed unto us.  The good book is very emphatic about this:

You are not your own; You were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body.… I Corinthians 6:19c-20

The least you could do if you encounter challenges is to go back to the one who gave you the privilege of life and admit that you don’t know what to do with the very gift he has given to you. I can assure you that He will help you and make something beautiful out of it.

So lets stop this pathetic illusion that we are in charge of our own lives. We are absolutely not.

 We are in the era of “Self” where you hear phrases like “self made”. This breeds a sense of pseudo control, craving to be able to make everything go our own way. But as you grow, you will discover that this is far from the truth.



There is nothing wrong for you to strive for a progressive, happy and perfect life, but if things don’t seem to work out and you feel you are overwhelmed with the cocktail of disappointments life throws at you, just run to the master for a bail out.

Even giant corporations often run to the Government for a bailout when they have hit rock bottom. Obama did same for the Auto Industry in the United States of America during the recent  economic recession.

Huge banks in Europe, who are supposed to be experts with money, end up falling flat on the canvas of economic uncertainties once in a while, and are only revived through bailouts from their Government.

Why would the Government be willing to sustain such industries who mess up? It is because the Government takes pride and glory in such entities- at least they provide jobs for the citizens and pay their taxes to Government.

Similarly, Gods greatest desire is for us to glorify Him with our lives and is always prepared to rescue us when we mess up it all up.

I remember that in my early 20’s I went through one of my darkest moments in life. I was depressed, hear-broken and suffered rejection when I needed those I called my friends the most. I couldn’t think straight. Thoughts of ending it all kept playing in my mind. I remember one time I was walking by the banks of the Volta ,I saw the river flowing with such gusto, and I thought to myself, just one jump and I would be free from my sorrows. But somehow, I just walked past it and returned to my closet. I even wanted to resort to alcohol and other vices to help ease my pain, but deep within me, I kept hearing a voice that I am more than these things.  I decided to turn my sleepless nights into prayer and meditating the word of God. It took longer than I thought, but I was completely healed, set free and had my right frame of mind back.



Looking back it would be the most stupid decision I could have taken. I just smile and wonder what was wrong with me at that time. It wasn’t worth me losing a hair, much more my life.

I would encourage anyone going through bouts of depression and mental instability to seek counsel, talk to someone experienced who can identify with your pain. Also use that pain to build a renewed stronger connection with God. Pour out your heart to Him. There is no need to pretend you are on top when you know you are sinking. It won’t be easy, but gradually you would come out of it.

May God strengthen and give you the understanding that the life he has given you is full of His glory, and that no matter what you are going through, He is your ever present help.

So don’t ever think of ending something that does not belong to you in the first place,  go to the owner of your life in prayer and gladly accept your bailout package.


From the desk of ROL



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I once encountered a brother who was so irate about his work. He believed his employers didn’t have his interest at heart. After 10 years of doing the same role, there isn’t any clear indication of promotion happening for him any time soon. To make matters worse, he had a terrible boss, who does not care about the well being of his staff.

Those who seemed to progress according to him were the politicians and bootlickers, pouncing on the patronage nature of his working environment to advance their parochial interest, often to the detriment of the overall business.

This brother came across as one of the good guys, diligent and faithful at his job., except that recently he finds work meaningless and is getting increasingly frustrated as a result.

After listening to his narration, I just asked one question? “What is the most valuable thing in your life?” He quickly replied that it was his family, he then with the speed of lightning took out his phone out of his pocket and showed me a picture of his beautiful wife and two adorable daughters. It was obvious they meant a lot to him.

I went ahead to ask him, “what gives you the greatest joy?” He again answered gleefully that it was his ability to adequately provide for his family , support his local church and caring for the needy.

I replied, that is great. So does your work help  you in anyway to achieve these things that gives you joy?

He nodded in affirmation. Of course, I am well paid, and I can afford a comfortable life and care for the needy because I have a stable income from my workplace.


Beautiful woman resting on the grass in a park

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I then said to him. I think you have been looking for fulfillment in the wrong places all these while, and that is why you feel frustrated and demoralized. You have  been expecting fulfillment to come from your workplace, but the truth is that it rarely happens, especially when you are employed by someone else.

But the truth is that in many instances, our jobs serve as means to enable us afford and maintain the most valuable things to us in life, in your case, it is your family. So see work as means to an end, and not an end itself.

He quickly wore a bright smile of relief and nodded  his bald head endlessly. He caught the revelation after all, that all this while, he had sought fulfillment in the wrong places.

I will urge you, my reader to reflect on this and ensure that going forward, you will see your work as something that enables you to pursue the things that truly matter in life.

Corporations come and go, some fold up, lay employees off  or gets acquired by fierce rivals.it is great if you find joy and fulfilment at your workplace, but that is not the real deal.




The uncertainties and pressures at work is so unbearable that if you don’t guard your heart, it can get to you and steal your joy from you.

Never allow that to happen, whatever your hands find doing, do it with all your might , stop the murmur and complaining and make sure that you make time for the things that matters most to you in life.

Have a blessed day.
From the desk of ROL

TIME NO DEY: Eulogy to Eugene Arthur

“For He Himself knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust. As for man, his days are like grass; As a flower of the field, so he flourishes. When the wind has passed over it, it is no more”

Psalm 103:14-16

Events in the past days has made me gone blank, finding it extremely difficult to process it all. It is like trying to restart a faulty computer over and over without any success.

It doesn’t add up in any way, and I find it very difficult to attribute to it to God’s will, because I know that it is not his will for anyone to die in his or her prime.

It’ been just over seven years ago since we met as the proud finalists among many applicants for the Diageo Management Trainee programme in 2010. We instantly struck a chord of friendship, you being quite amazed at my choice of words in articulating my views, whilst I found your condor and “plain plain” approach to dealing with issues quite fascinating

We have all matured into playing key roles for our employer over the years. We got married around the same period and all have amazing kids we can’t stop talking about.

There is always a calmness in your approach to solving difficult issues. There have been several occasions I walked to your desk in my full elements, vividly agitated by some payment issues but you always made the problem look easier than I thought and always found a solution.

I, on the other hand have always been a culprit of the numerous POLO requirements. I am a regular receipient of those emails. You walked to my desk just a few days ago to resolve a particular outstanding issue when you realized I wasn’t forthcoming with its closure.

There are too much memories between us, which time won’t permit me to outline.

Friday 3rd March was the internal launch of “Osagyefo”. You were  so full of life and vibrant that you started your celebration way before you set off to the workplace. At the end of the day, there  was the usual “thank God for the long weekend” and “Chaley  we go crush next  week”, “Greetings to the family” chats.

Little did I know that it would be the last time we saw each other.

In all these I ask myself, so who bears the brunt of your demise most?

Your employer has lost a true gem, but the truth is that big multinationals are wired to survive irrespective of what happens, so I guess work will still go on without any visible interruption.

We your friends are devastated and totally broken, no words can describe how we feel, but we will try and move on as the weeks go by.

It is your family who will suffer the most, to some you were a true son, a big brother and an inspiration. Your name surfaced anytime the old men and women gathered, talking about their children who have brought honor to the Arthurs’ family name.

As for your wife and daughter, I can’t find words to describe what they are going through at this stage. The mere fact that your little princess will be patiently waiting every weekend by the windows to hear the screeching sound of Daddy’s car, the embrace of your warm hands and for her to tirelessly narrate all what she has done throughout the week to your patient ears, only to be told that Daddy is not coming is devastating enough.

I pray God give your wife the courage and strength needed  and protect your family, so that whatever you might have loved to do for them will come to pass in greater folds.

Your death has given me a renewed urge to question myself again about why I  am here, how I spend my time and the choices I make going forward. One thing is obvious, Time No Dey. Our lives are just too fragile to procrastinate on our dreams, hate or fight each other. We must let every moment count and love each other.

May your soul rest in Perfect Peace, Eugene Wiabo- Arthur and May the Good Lord keep you till we meet again.




From the desk of ROL 


Dedicated to everyone who has encouraged me in my blogging journey- I really apprciate your kind words.


There is that innate desire for every rational human to want to progress in life. One key determinant factor of how far we can progress in life is dependent on the people in our lives. – Who you know and who knows you.

Interestingly our quest to build the right relationships tends to be very lopsided, always focusing our time and attention on men and women of influence who have what we desire and can easily be a blessing to us. I refer to them as friends in higher places.

However, God has a crude sense of humor, where our best is brought forth only when we also relate well to those who are below us in the social ladder and most of the times may be dependent on us for their very survival in one form or another.

I want us to examine the extraordinary biblical account of the Syrian Army Commander by name Naaman. This man was the envy of his colleagues in the field of combat, wealth and accolades. He was astute, influential and very powerful in his days. Unfortunately he had a nagging issue which stole his joy and made him feel insecure and incomplete on the inside. I suspect he felt that his achievements would compensate for his shortfall, but the more he progressed, the more he realized that this was far from the truth.

I am sure you can also relate Naaman’s issue to your personal life. Perhaps there is this one thing you are believing God for a miracle for years and despite all your achievements and promotions in life you still feel miserable on the inside because of that one thing. It could be a difficult marriage or spouse, a wayward child, a sick parent, weakness et childlessness, etc. that tends to mar all what you have achieved in life.




People too are cruel, they won’t hesitate to remind you of that particular weakness and would even describe you as “that man with the wayward son” or the “woman with the runaway husband”. In a way it makes them feel good but ends up devastating your very being. But such is life.

In the case of Naaman, it was that lingering leprosy, though hidden from many, continued to eat him up both physically and emotionally. He had come to accept it that he couldn’t have it all in life and something must always give in.

But such thoughts are contrary to the purposes and intents of God. For God does not delight in our deficiencies. What joy will a good father get from a suffering child? In fact the bible clearly declares that God delights in the prosperity of his children and He indeed wants us to have it all.

So let no one boast in men. For all things are yours, – 1Corinthians 3:21

Naaman with all his wisdom, wealth and power was ignorant about the fact that he could have it all! It took a poor Jewish maidservant, who happened to chance on her master’s predicament to inform his wife that her master could be delivered from that bondage of leprosy.

And the Syrians had gone out on raids, and had brought back captive a young girl from the land of Israel. She waited on Naaman’s wife. Then she said to her mistress, “If only my master were with the prophet who is in Samaria! For he would heal him of his leprosy

2 Kings 5:2-3

Once Naaman got wind of this information from the Jewish servant, he took the steps to meet the prophet Elisha, and the rest is history. In the end he ended up with a superior skin than he could ever envisage.


In the end, Naaman was not delivered from his leprosy because of the influential people he knew, but because a poor servant who depended on him for her livelihood. I can also bet that the girl had empathy for her master, because Naaman and his wife were good to her and treated her with respect and dignity, albeit she was just a common maidservant.

So I will encourage you to treat people very well, especially those who seemingly don’t have much to give to you. For you never know. You will never know where your next breakthrough will come from. And perhaps, that nagging limitation in that particular area of your life, which seems to get worse, the more you try to break free from it will be healed by virtue of one recommendation from a friend in lower places.


Stay blessed and Keep Winning in Jesus name


From the desk of ROL


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Anytime  I complainedI complicated my pain

The sense of helplessness drove me insane

Then I decided never to complain

And my energy surged like a train

Felt the refreshing of the rain

Alas, I am no longer slain

by the sword of of my complaints

Lo,the mountains have become a plain

My fear goes down the drain

The winds of praise scatter them like grains

I lift my eyes, with confidence and faith

And all of a sudden I can see, there is so much to gain.

#rolandoforispeaks #shortblog. #poetry


You have to love your haters. When Jesus said this, he wasn’t messing around with his disciples but meant every word!

It took me a very long while to appreciate this phenomenal statement from our Lord and Master.

Now here s the catch:

Haters are only indicators of your blessings. They serve as the aroma of the blessings God has prepared for you.


Interestingly haters have the rare ability to sense your blessings before you do, and most of the times without any provocation; they will come at you with all they have.

But your job is not to fight back and start hating on them as well. After all what will you get trying to trap the aroma of a food?

Instead have a renewed sense of curiosity to search and locate the blessings coming your way.

So appreciate your haters, for they will always bring to your attention whatever blessing is happening in your blind side.


Remember the favourite Psalm?

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: Psalm 23:5a

Yeah! Your table will always attract your enemies. So don’t lose sleep over your enemies, don’t lose your appetite, for you’ve got some good food at your table to take care of.


What can I say? Bon appetite and see you at the top


God bless you.

From the desk of ROL




Its been a year since I took to blogging . Its been a awesome and fulfilling journey on a personal level. 2017 will bigger and better  as I continually seek to provoke and inspire people for their  personal development in every facet of their lives through my writings.


Before I share my first blog in 2017, I feel the need to acknowledge a few bloggers in whose work I have found inspiration in 2016.

#1  Josephine Amoako, a graduate of University of Ghana of  who in her own words is Born to Write, On a Mission to Inspire” I believe she fulfils her mission quite well. Thanks for being a blessing in so many ways to me in my blogging journey. You can access her blog via the link: https://joseyphina.wordpress.com/.

#2  Wilhemina Mawuenam Agbozo, an IT support engineer who enjoys reading, writing, singing and dancing. Mimi believes that you must “Love what you do”. Her passion can be felt though her works. Thanks for always finding the time to review my blogs and commenting. Just to let you know that you commented the most on my blogs in 2016. I really appreciate it. Check out Mimi’s blog  via:https://mimispassion.wordpress.com/

#3 Ufuoma is a young professional, a social entrepreneur and founder/CEO of Fair Life Africa Foundation.  Motivated by her passion for God, she has chosen to give back to the less privileged, through social care initiatives run by Fair Life Africa. Thanks for your inspired blogs which are full of Godly insight and depth. Check out her beautiful blog via: https://ufuomaee.wordpress.com/

#4 Kim Sweeting, a  minister of the word and a professional coach ,resident at the Bahamas who love to communicate with people in ways that help them to grow spiritually, develop personally, and live effectively, i.e., according to God’s purpose, plans, and principles in all areas of their lives.Her concise posts are such a blessing to me. Visit her blog at https://unwalled.wordpress.com/

#5 My latest addition is Gleaning the Scriptures .A blog dedicated to bring the word of God to life in a practical and personal way in the lives of believers. You can check out the blog at https://gleaningthescriptures.wordpress.com/

May you all receive greater insights and continue to be a blessing to myself and others  who will be fortunate to discover the treasures you have.

Have a prosperous 2017 and God richly bless you all


From the desk of ROL



Reflections:Lessons of 2016 –Part 2

This is the concluding part of the blog “Reflections :Lessons of 2016”

If you haven’t already read the part one, you can access it via this link: https://rolandoforispeaks.wordpress.com/2016/12/27/reflections-lessons-of-2016-part-one/


#Never Underestimate the Role of Family


This year I happened to be away from my family for a couple of months due to international assignments. It created such a void nothing else was good enough to fill whilst I was away. It dawned on me that I needed my family as much as they needed me. I dreaded weekends whilst I was away from them, because it compounded that sense of loneliness.

When my assignment was over, I hastily returned home with a revived sense of commitment towards my family.

It is rare to find meaning and purpose in the work we do, though our work gets the best part of our energies and talents. You will therefore need a balance with family. Devote more time to family and let every moment you spend with them count. You can always get a new job but not family, so don’t take them for granted. Never assume they would always be there. Create amazing memories which you can look back and smile one day.


 #Follow Your Passion



You are not complete until you find true expression for your passions. In many instances what we do for a living is entirely different from the things we are truly passionate about. It may not affect your effectiveness as a professional in any way. You may go on and become very successful in your career, but there will be a void left in you which no amount of appraisal and promotion can ever compensate.

It doesn’t necessarily mean you need to stop your job entirely (for the bills got to be paid), but rather make time to develop avenues for expressing what you are truly passionate about.

I have a passion for writing which I had shelved for years. This year I decided to apply some consistency to expressing my passion. I therefore took to blogging and it’s been an exciting journey so far with commendations from high level quarters of society I never envisaged ever getting their attention with my works. I have also successfully completed my first book which will be launched early 2017.The joy and satisfaction I derive from writing is inexplicable.

So what are you truly passionate about? Is it music? Teaching? Kids? Helping the vulnerable? Ministry? Higher Education? Becoming a media personality? Developing expertise in a field totally contrary to what you are currently doing? It is never too late. Put your mind and energies to it and see them come into fruition. It is then that you have truly started living.


#Find True Meaning in God


Life is meaningless without finding a place in God. He is the very foundation of our lives. For in Him we live and move and have our being. Don’t be deceived by all these people who put up appearance and pretend they have no need of God. All is not well with them, for such are slaves to all kinds of tendencies, with a sustained failed quest in finding solace in the creation instead of the creator.

Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,

Romans 1:21-22

They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator, who is forever worthy of praise! Romans 1:25

You can become very successful in life and still pursue the things of God. The likes of Daniel, who was found ten times better than his colleague governors, still served God very effectively in his days

So continue to serve God without any apology, use all your gifts, talents and substance to serve Him and advance the cause of the gospel, and He will bless you more than you can ever imagine.


#Self Discovery can Be Daunting


I had the opportunity to undergo an assessment by Young Samuel Chambers (YSC) as part my grooming for future leadership. This was to help me understand my strengths and development areas and to give me an idea of my natural tendencies as an individual

Overall my results were quite impressive and inspiring, but I was taken aback regarding some of the descriptions in line with my development areas. I felt scandalized and expressed my reservations to the assessor. After further deliberations I came to understand it was the true reflection of me.

Not so convinced, I gave the results to my wife for her independent assessment. It turns out that she also agreed at least 95% to what the assessment said about it.

As one of my directors puts it “The way you think you show up may be different from how people actually perceive you.

It is great to know others and build amazing relationships with them, but most importantly strive to know yourself. It can really be a daunting task.

This will involve getting feedback from all kinds of stakeholders (it should be a fair blend of those who like you and those who don’t like you much), having a mentor, undergoing psychometric tests (there are a couple of free ones on the internet if you can’t afford a paid service) and also seeing yourself in the mirror of God’s word.

Once you get all those feedbacks, do something about it, celebrate your strengths and improve on your development areas.

Most importantly be aware of your dark side and use wisdom to keep a lid on it. For it takes wisdom for the powerful Salt to avoid a swimming contest from the Shea butter.


#Nothing is Guaranteed, God is the Final Judge


2016 has been characterized by events which defy human expertise and predictions. Just to name a few, there was the Brexit, and then Donald Trump, the unlikeliest of candidates got elected as President of the United States over a “more qualified” Hillary Clinton. In fact the defeat of Hillary was sudden and humiliating to the point that it triggered mass protests from supporters who were too sure that Hillary’s presidency was a done deal.

Then in Africa, Yahya Jammeh, the President of Gambia for the past 22 years got the shock of his life when he was beaten to pulp in their recent election. The dude is still bathing in an acidic cocktail of shock and denial he may never recover.

Finally there was the Mahama Shock in Ghana. I have never seen a ruling party so sure of victory than the Mahama administration, In fact they launched Campaigns big Multinationals in Ghana will struggle to match, with the face of our honorable President littered all over the country.

Some traditional chiefs even put their chieftaincy on the line and promised to step down if Mahama doesn’t win the election.

To them it wasn’t the question of whether they would win or not, but rather by what margin they were going to win. I for once doubted the chances of the opposition, but the NDC had a rude awakening by the 8th of December, when it was clear that they had suffered their greatest election defeat ever.

Fast forward, Nana Addo, at age 72, is now President Elect after 8 years of pursuit.

The lesson in all these is that God is the final judge of all flesh. He chooses to lift up one and puts down another. He shows mercy to whom he would show mercy and shows compassion to who he would.

Thus says the LORD, “Let not a wise man boast of his wisdom, and let not the mighty man boast of his might, let not a rich man boast of his riches. – Jeremiah 9:23

So in conclusion don’t judge, don’t condemn, don’t write anybody off, and don’t undermine anyone. You are not God, You are only a man. Treat everyone with respect and dignity, irrespective of their position in life today.

God bless you for your wonderful support in 2016. I wish you the best of this festive season

See you in 2017.


From the desk of ROL


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  Reflections: Lessons of 2016 -Part One


2016 has been a phenomenal year personally for me. A lot of doors and opportunities have come my way. Although not all things went the way I expected, overall I can say I am leaving 2016 more confident, more equipped, more exposed, and more progressive than I started it.

As I reflected on the year 2016, I gleaned a few lessons I would love to share with you, my loyal readers.




Jesus answered and said unto him, What I do thou knowest not now; but thou shalt know hereafter. – John 13:7

This scripture was a classic encounter between Jesus and Peter. The latter wanting to understand why Jesus wanted to wash the feet of his disciples. Jesus didn’t see the need to explain himself to Peter. Instead he was blunt with him and said; well you would understand it one day.

Personally there have been a couple of times I have gone through experiences which were incoherent with my own  logic. I have dared a couple of times to question God “Why?” In most occasions I did not get any answers. But all in all I continue to keep faith, knowing that all things will eventually work together for my own good in the fullness of time.

Steve Jobs captures this in his own terms:

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever”



2016 new business success strategy


Ingratitude is a foul symptom of a false sense of entitlement which is nonexistent in many cases.

I have been amazed at the number of ungrateful people I have encountered in 2016.

As I pondered on this, I remembered the story of the ten lepers. It then dawned on me that there will always be the question “where are the other nine”

And Jesus answering said, were there not ten cleansed? But where are the nine? – Luke 17:17 

People have no idea the extent to which others go to meet their demands, even if it is half way , and yet they see no reason to show any slight semblance of appreciation.

I remember I had to borrow money to sort out a Christian brother who was in tight situation with the assurance that he will reimburse me when all is said and done.I was so scandalized when this dude didn’t pick the phone to even say “thank you” after going out of my way to save his face, left alone making any attempt to pay back the money.

I later had to cough the money to pay off the person I borrowed from.

I can assure you that there are a lot of such people all over the place, in churches, mosques, workplaces etc. They are very educated and hence you expect them to know better but sadly they don’t.

The truth is that nobody owes you anything in life, not your parents, your spouse, friends etc. hence don’t take any favor someone shows you for granted.





I have had a couple of strained relationships this year because I told some people “NO”. They were so offended and couldn’t find a way past their blind-folding ego.

Truth be told, I am not God, I can’t meet all your needs. So are you. I therefore encourage you that let God be God and men be men.

Why should you be offended because someone could not meet your needs? Instead if you  direct the anger towards  fixing that problem, it will be gone in no time.

So get real. Never assume anything. There are people who push around four wheel drives and yet have no food to eat. That is what they prefer and enjoy satisfaction from, so if you go to ask money from such a person and he says he can’t help you, why should you be angry?

For me YES is an answer and “NO” is equally a good answer. The good book encourages us that we should we use both without fear or favor.

But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.- Mathew 5:37

I have concluded that true friends are those who can take a ‘no’ from you and still stick around and not be offended.



Ordinary life is boring and will make you sick. A part of man (his spirit) is supernatural and must be fed as such. You can’t afford to live a life where you have everything figured out, strictly according to your means.

The good book admonishes us that our sufficiency is not of ourselves but of God. It means we are not complete on our own but only complete in Him.

Therefore we need to be connected to God in all our dealings. Allow Him to direct your path. Train yourself to hear and obey his voice. Commit to studying His word, which is able to build you up and give you access to your inheritance in Christ Jesus.

Pray and fast to sharpen your senses. Give, not out of your abundance, but even out of the little you have, for that seed will trigger uncommon harvest.  Learn to tithe to amplify your antenna of expectations.

You can’t afford to operate in the realms of ordinariness. Take that step of faith now. Pursue that dream, for with God all things are possible.



In life there are opportunities you would come across, which you know that you are adequately qualified for and deserve, but someone less qualified in your estimation may end up getting that opportunity instead of you. There is the tendency for you to murmur and be bitter. Guard against it.

There will also be opportunities you don’t deserve, yet would be given to you. In such instances, don’t give room to self doubt or inferiority complex, for you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Lastly you would also get opportunities you absolutely deserve and are capable of handling. Make sure you don’t give room to pride and self conceit, touting how you prepared and worked hard for that opportunity.

Otherwise, you may say in your heart, ‘My power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.’ “But you shall remember the LORD your God, for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day. –Deuteronomy 8:17-18


Enjoy this festive season and remember that Christ is the reason for the season


Part 2 of this blog can be found via this link: https://rolandoforispeaks.wordpress.com/2016/12/31/reflections-lessons-of-2016-part-2/


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