#1 Dreams come true.
Have a dream, put it on paper, get a picture representation and display it boldly on your walls. Talk about our dreams and then allow the forces of nature to set into motion the realization of these dreams.
#2 Fail at Something
Find something you have not done before and try. Start some business, a new sport, hobby, relationship and be ready to embrace failure. I bet you will become a better person.
#3 Don’t Sing the Chorus of the Masses
My dear, the economy is bad, things are tough but some people are making it. Forget about the general socio economic conditions and go for your dream. There is always a way out for a man who is determined.
#4 improve your social media literacy
A lot of us find the dispensation of social media amazing. We tend to post everything happening to us on social media. We all have our low sides, when we are not thinking straight, and have all manner of dark funny ideas. At that moment, social media is not the best avenue to spit it all there. I have stopped taking some people serious because of the kind of incessant nonsense they put on social media.
You might think that whatever you put on social media is not the real you, sorry it is the real you. You will be judged by what you put on social media.
The painful part is that whatever you put on the internet never goes away. It will come back and haunt you when you least expect in the future. Recent issues with Kevin Hart and other celebrities about what they posted some years ago should be a wakeup call to all of us.
I went for an interview with an international organization and I was shocked to the bone that over 50% of the interview questions was based the topics I blog about. I said in my head” but this has got nothing to do with what I blog about” but hey it found its way into the conversation. Since then I have been very circumspect with the stuff I put on social media.
#5 Be intentional about your relationships.
Except in rare cases, you will always attract average people without any effort, but for the extraordinary people, it takes hard work to attract them. They will hardly come to you to court your friendship. You need them, they don’t, so you must invest in getting close to them. The truth is that it is not easy, many of them are not friendly at the beginning, because they are weary of time wasters and one time favor seekers, but you have to break through that barrier and prove yourself credible of their company. To achieve that, you must learn to tame your ego and have a clear concise plan for that relationship you want to build.
#6 Learn to Give More
Generally we consider people who give us gifts as friendly and genuinely interested in us. Giving gifts is not only necessary in amorous and family relations. Learn to surprise your friends and leaders with simple gifts. You have no idea the warm feeling it will evoke from the recipients towards you. Stand out from the pack, and let your friends know that you are amazing.
#7 Who said you are naked?
Nakedness evokes the sense of limitation, inadequacy, secrecy, shame and vulnerability. Where can you go if you are naked? Not even your own business you have built with your own sweat and blood. You will lose your self-respect and credibility the moment you step out of your house naked for even just a minute!
The sense of nakedness represents self-limiting beliefs. Nobody is interested in your nakedness in a public setting no matter how amazing you look. In the same vein, nobody is interested in your limitations and inadequacies so stop disturbing them with all the reasons why you cannot live a better life. When God found Adam and Eve naked, the first thing he did was to clothe them before sacking them from the Garden of Eden. So deal with your limitations and get out there to pursue your dreams
#8 Human Beings are Generally Equalizers
There are three types of people: The Givers, who normally give more than they receive. They are a rare breed!
The Takers: Who seek to exploit the benevolence of others they are in a relationship without investing in same and lastly the Equalizers, who will do unto you as you do unto them. Many of us fall into this category. We normally attend functions of those who attend ours, donate to others who donate to us and are friendly towards those who are friendly to us. For example a guy attended the naming ceremony of a friend’s child and donated an amount of GHs 200. A year down the line, he also gave birth. Guess the amount his friend also donated: “the same GHs 200.” It is our default nature as humans so get used to it and don’t expect more than you invest in the lives of others.
#9 Customize your communications
Stop sharing Generic messages to people if they mean something to you. There is nothing annoying as receiving the same seasonal message (jpeg or gif) from hundreds of people who call themselves friends
Sometimes I wonder what is wrong with this generation. If we truly cherish someone, you will spend time and couch a befitting message deep from your heart to send to the person. It is better to send only ten meaningful seasonal greetings than forward some overused postcard to everyone on your friends list.
#10 START A SIDE GIG
We all need a side gig very seriously in 2019 because of these reasons: very few of us land in jobs we are genuinely passionate about. I have heard on many occasions from consummate professionals who are doing excellent stuff at their places of work but moan the sense of unfulfillment in their life. At the end of the day, the bills must be paid so they will hang on just like that! The other reason is that you have far more talent and skills than your job title. I can say confidently that very few of the working class at the corporate world knew exactly what they will do whilst in College. Many of them grabbed the job opportunity which came their way after school and built a career from there. But hey, don’t let your job tittle limit you, express your “other parts” on some side. The last reason is that businesses are becoming leaner! Their focus is to make their profit and maximize shareholder’s value. Your welfare is not usually a priority! You are an enabler. At any point they feel you are not giving them value, you will be disposed: just like that! So build the necessary shock absorbers with some side business: It will serve as the airbag when the “collision” occurs. Also with many of our financial institutions collapsing due to governance issues, you should realize that it is no longer just enough to be diligent at your work. You may never know what some “Oga at the top” are busying themselves with which will come back to bite you the small rat in your little corner chewing on your handful of peanuts!
The good thing about the side gig is that you don’t have to do it all by yourself, get a few of your colleagues, put resources and ideas together and start something!
A side gig can also cushion you if you have to get out of a toxic work environment. You need it. Go for it!
#11 JUST BE A FRIEND
Networking is very important. In fact it will open doors for you which your academic qualification can’t. That said, learn to be a friend. People are becoming fatigued with contacts trying to build relationship because they want a favor or two. The best time to invest into a relationship is when you don’t have any immediate help from the other person. Connect with people because they have a sweet spirit, shared values and you can open up to them without the being taken for granted. Everybody needs a friend and you can be one.
#12 THE GOD FACTOR IS CRITICAL
My friend, there is more to life than what meets the eyes! The sun may be blazing brightly but we live in a dark, wicked world. Not all those who smile with you mean well. Not all open doors are meant to be entered. For there is a way that seems right to a man but the end result is heartbreak and death! Never think you have all figured out in life, you won’t know what will hit you when you least expect. Allow God to order your steps. Seek his counsel through prayer, reading of His word and meditation.
#13 LIFT SOMEONE UP
The paradox of life is that at any given moment, the resources you have is never enough to meet all your needs, however your resources are more than enough to meet an urgent need of someone else. You may not enough to buy your dream car, but you can pay the fees of a struggling student or even buy a bicycle for that studious boy at the public school near your house. So don’t focus all your time on your needs. Be a blessing to others. For it is said that you are nothing in life if you don’t help others to become something in life.
#14 THE YOUNG SHALL GROW
Remember that the young shall grow! But just make sure that you invest in them so that you are still relevant in their lives. The balance of power will not stay in your hands forever, use your power, position and influence to nurture and promote some young talent whilst you can. Yow will be glad you did in the near future. Many a times you will find a Ghanaian in a position of influence talking down and stressing on the weakness of a young talent instead of shedding light on his/her strengths when there is an opportunity for promotion. Ayoo! One day one day the young shall grow! You will need their favor and they may not be there for you because of your attitude towards them today.
#15 TIME IS THE BEST EQUALIZER OF LIFE
Sometimes things just don’t happen for you even when you have done all your best and pulled all the strings you can. It could be that it is not yet time for that thing to happen, so keep your cool, and trust the process of time when you have paid your dues. I have observed kids grow, and realize that they will learn to sit, crawl, stand, walk, run and talk when the time is up. No parent becomes anxious that her 3- month baby is not walking like other older kids! That breakthrough will come when you least expect it.
#16 YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW, NOT WHERE YOU SOW.
Many of us are embittered by the fact that our efforts are not being recognized by those we are investing our time and effort with. It could be in a relationship or your work place. The good books says that you will reap what you sow, not necessarily where you sow, so leave God to determine where the fruits will come from. Your job is to keep sowing good seeds. The fruits will definitely come!
#17 READ, READ, READ
Cultivate the habit of reading. Open your horizon, feed on the intelligence and insights of people, learn something new, there is always a simpler and smarter way to do things which others have discovered. You should be tired with your boring perspective about life by now. Tap into people’s insights through their books. I bet you will become a better person in 2019 if you do this.
#18 COLLABORATION IS KEY
This “do it all by myself” attitude especially among Ghanaian entrepreneurs is very self-imitating and many at times reduces a venture with multinational potential to some local “hand to mouth” business. Many entrepreneurs are worried about who takes the credit. They fantasize about the title of CEO, MD, and Chairman etc. I believe it is better to own 50% of $100,000 than to own 100% of a $1000 venture. Bill Gates didn’t build Microsoft alone, Steve Jobs didn’t build Apple alone, Mark Zuckerberg didn’t build Facebook alone, and the list goes on.., Google etc. are all excellent multibillion enterprises birthed out of smart collaborations, so open up and join your forces with others to make that business idea the best it could be.
# FLY WITH THE EAGLES!
You cannot get to the top by dancing with the chicken. The real deal is up there with the eagles. The human mind is such that it stretches or shrinks to the proportion of the exposure it receives. If you walk with smart, intelligent and determined achievers, you will become one in no time. On the other hand, if you hang out with lazy, excuse laden imbeciles who nag and always question the success of others, you will end up at the very low rung of the ladder of life. It is said that “Iron sharpens iron”. If you are the smartest person among your pack of friends for a long time, it means you are not challenging yourself and associating with people who will add value in your life. Yu will become dumb in the long run.
I wish you all the best in 2019.See you at the top!
From the desk of ROL
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