HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR DOUGHNUT?

It is said that when you present a pessimist with a doughnut, the first thing he will see is the gaping hole in the doughnut!😊

The real deal however is what surrounds the gaping hole, the gaping hole should not stop you from enjoying the delicacy.

Around every challenge you face right now,there are countless opportunities which surrounds it, so don’t get fixated and discouraged by the gaping challenges you face now, look for the opportunity and focus on it.

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PUSHED OUT

     …dedicated to Suntaa Konogini, the latest and proudest father in town

Little Abi  had somehow figured out  the world that surrounded her in her mother’s womb. At a point she was just a clot of blood, now she saw herself as a “big girl” knowing her way around the ever expansive womb which kept adjusting to her rapid growth. She was surrounded by a vast pool of fluid that that gave her flexibility to move around and indulge in all sorts of acrobatics. Besides she had endless supply of food through the permanent connection to her mum’s umbilical cord. Life  simply  couldn’t be better than this!

But soon, reality hit little Abi, she realized that her world had stopped expanding to accommodate her bigger size. She took much more effort to turn around and in very slow manner in order not to get “crashed.”

In her mind she thought ” maybe I have grown too big for this environment, but I like it here, I know my way around here. I have this world all to myself with amazing months of experience. She reflected” can I lose weight or get smaller in order to fit this space I so much loved? as she kept pondering on the best alternative to make her life comfortable, it dawned on her that she was no longer  welcomed in her cozy world. A voice then beckoned ” sweetie, it is time to move on”Just then she noticed that the walls of her world started crashing and contracting on her. She was been forced out! She protested with all her might, but the force of nature was far more superior. All of a sudden, she realized that the fluids which characterized her world was draining rapidly. “Now I am surely going to die, she thought to herself”

Maybe I need to come out, maybe I will stand a chance of survival in the world I am being pushed into. She had one consolation though” The umbilical cord which supplied her food was still intact. She figured out that as long as she was still attached to the cord, she will be fine in her new world.

So finally, little Abi surrendered   the resistance and with the help of the midwife, came out of her mother’s womb!

But it was not a great feeling, falling in the hands of these giants creatures, whose smiles and noise scared the hell out of her. She couldn’t help but to cry, so hard she never knew she was capable.

Her heart was broken when the only food supply she ever knew was cut off from her. She was now very sure that these giant creatures handling her were inhumane.

She was then washed and handed back to the mum. She feebly opened her eyes to have a gaze of her mum, she was surprised at the tenderness in the mum’s eyes. Little Abi couldn’t believe the mum could do all these “wicked ” acts to her and still smile, what a hypocrite!

Then something amazing happened, little Abi picked the scent of the nicest aroma ever, she turned her head to locate the source of this aroma and realized it was coming from two pouches hanging on the mother’s chest. Her mum realizing her curiosity directed Abi’s lips towards one of the pouches. Abi instinctively sucked from the outlets of this pouch and oh my, the taste was equally magical.

She helped herself as much as possible and fell asleep. Some few hours later, Abi woke up to realize she was still alive. After all she didn’t die. It appeared she was going to live, besides she had better tasting food supplies and a much bigger world for her to grow in. “Maybe I can become as big as mama and the other giants I see around me. I think this world is far better and allows me to become all I can ever be.Perhaps Mama was right for pushing me out of my previous limited and small world”

As Abi thought of these things, she couldn’t help but sport a big lovely smile.

Many of us can relate to the story of little Abi, whereby our comfort zones are the very places that limit our potential. Somehow we continue to find ways to discount our dreams and ambitions to fit into the “realities ” of these ever shrinking  spaces.

But a time is coming where series of  “unfortunate” circumstances orchestrated by God  will push you out of these comfort zones into bigger spaces where your talent, experience, skill and all that makes you unique is well respected and adequately rewarded and celebrated.

Be ready for that change, you cant fight it, it will happen soon!

 

From the desk of ROL

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THE MANIFESTO OF DIVINE PROTECTION

With so much happening around us, our hearts are bound to be afraid, but have you taken time to read God’s own manifesto regarding your personal protection? You will be amazed at its emphatic nature. God never second guessed His absolute commitment to preserving your life. It is clearly spelt out as follows:

He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will trust.” Surely He shall deliver you from the snare of the fowler And from the perilous pestilence. He shall cover you with His feathers, And under His wings you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler. You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, Nor of the arrow that flies by day, Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. A thousand may fall at your side, And ten thousand at your right hand; But it shall not come near you. Only with your eyes shall you look, And see the reward of the wicked. Because you have made the LORD, who is my refuge, Even the Most High, your dwelling place, No evil shall befall you, Nor shall any plague come near your dwelling; For He shall give His angels charge over you, To keep you in all your ways. In their hands they shall bear you up, Lest you dash your foot against a stone. You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra, The young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot. “Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high, because he has known My name. He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him. With long life I will satisfy him, And show him My salvation.””

Psalms 91:1-16 NKJV

So be rest assured of your safety as long as you abide in Christ! And never allow the devil to overwhelm you with the fear of the unknown. You shall live a long and satisfying life to the Glory of the Lord!

Be blessed!

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19 THINGS TO CONSIDER IN 2019

#1 Dreams come true.

Have a dream, put it on paper, get a picture representation and display it boldly on your walls. Talk about our dreams and then allow the forces of nature to set into motion the realization of these dreams.

 

#2 Fail at Something

Find something you have not done before and try. Start some business, a new sport, hobby, relationship and be ready to embrace failure. I bet you will become a better person.

#3 Don’t Sing the Chorus of the Masses

My dear, the economy is bad, things are tough but some people are making it. Forget about the general socio economic conditions and go for your dream. There is always a way out for a man who is determined.

#4 improve your social media literacy

A lot of us find the dispensation of social media amazing. We tend to post everything happening to us on social media. We all have our low sides, when we are not thinking straight, and have all manner of dark funny ideas. At that moment, social media is not the best avenue to spit it all there. I have stopped taking some people serious because of the kind of incessant nonsense they put on social media.

You might think that whatever you put on social media is not the real you, sorry it is the real you. You will be judged by what you put on social media.

The painful part is that whatever you put on the internet never goes away. It will come back and haunt you when you least expect in the future. Recent issues with Kevin Hart and other celebrities about what they posted some years ago should be a wakeup call to all of us.

I went for an interview with an international organization and I was shocked to the bone that over 50% of the interview questions was based the topics I blog about. I said in my head” but this has got nothing to do with what I blog about” but hey it found its way into the conversation. Since then I have been very circumspect with the stuff I put on social media.

#5 Be intentional about your relationships.

Except in rare cases, you will always attract average people without any effort, but for the extraordinary people, it takes hard work to attract them. They will hardly come to you to court your friendship. You need them, they don’t, so you must invest in getting close to them. The truth is that it is not easy, many of them are not friendly at the beginning, because they are weary of time wasters and one time favor seekers, but you have to break through that barrier and prove yourself credible of their company. To achieve that, you must learn to tame your ego and have a clear concise plan for that relationship you want to build.

 

#6 Learn to Give More

Generally we consider people who give us gifts as friendly and genuinely interested in us. Giving gifts is not only necessary in amorous and family relations. Learn to surprise your friends and leaders with simple gifts. You have no idea the warm feeling it will evoke from the recipients towards you. Stand out from the pack, and let your friends know that you are amazing.

 

#7 Who said you are naked?

Nakedness evokes the sense of limitation, inadequacy, secrecy, shame and vulnerability. Where can you go if you are naked? Not even your own business you have built with your own sweat and blood. You will lose your self-respect and credibility the moment you step out of your house naked for even just a minute!

The sense of nakedness represents self-limiting beliefs. Nobody is interested in your nakedness in a public setting no matter how amazing you look. In the same vein, nobody is interested in your limitations and inadequacies so stop disturbing them with all the reasons why you cannot live a better life. When God found Adam and Eve naked, the first thing he did was to clothe them before sacking them from the Garden of Eden. So deal with your limitations and get out there to pursue your dreams

#8 Human Beings are Generally Equalizers

There are three types of people: The Givers, who normally give more than they receive. They are a rare breed!

The Takers: Who seek to exploit the benevolence of others they are in a relationship without investing in same and lastly the Equalizers, who will do unto you as you do unto them. Many of us fall into this category. We normally attend functions of those who attend ours, donate to others who donate to us and are friendly towards those who are friendly to us. For example a guy attended the naming ceremony of a friend’s child and donated an amount of GHs 200. A year down the line, he also gave  birth. Guess the amount his friend also donated: “the same GHs 200.” It is our default nature as humans so get used to it and don’t expect more than you invest in the lives of others.

 

#9 Customize your communications

Stop sharing Generic messages to people if they mean something to you. There is nothing annoying as receiving the same seasonal message (jpeg or gif) from hundreds of people who call themselves friends

Sometimes I wonder what is wrong with this generation. If we truly cherish someone, you will spend time and couch a befitting message deep from your heart to send to the person. It is better to send only ten meaningful seasonal greetings than forward some overused postcard to everyone on your friends list.

#10 START A SIDE GIG

We all need a side gig very seriously in 2019 because of these reasons: very few of us land in jobs we are genuinely passionate about. I have heard on many occasions from consummate professionals who are doing excellent stuff at their places of work but moan the sense of unfulfillment in their life.  At the end of the day, the bills must be paid so they will hang on just like that! The other reason is that you have far more talent and skills than your job title. I can say confidently that very few of the working class at the corporate world knew exactly what they will do whilst in College. Many of them grabbed the job opportunity which came their way after school and built a career from there. But hey, don’t let your job tittle limit you, express your “other parts” on some side. The last reason is that businesses are becoming leaner! Their focus is to make their profit and maximize shareholder’s value. Your welfare is not usually a priority! You are an enabler. At any point they feel you are not giving them value, you will be disposed: just like that! So build the necessary shock absorbers with some side business: It will serve as the airbag when the “collision” occurs. Also with many of our financial institutions collapsing due to governance issues, you should realize that it is no longer just enough to be diligent at your work. You may never know what some “Oga at the top” are busying themselves with which will come back to bite you the small rat in your little corner chewing on your handful of peanuts!

The good thing about the side gig is that you don’t have to do it all by yourself, get a few of your colleagues, put resources and ideas together and start something!

A side gig can also cushion you if you have to get out of a toxic work environment. You need it. Go for it!

#11 JUST BE A FRIEND

Networking is very important. In fact it will open doors for you which your academic qualification can’t. That said, learn to be a friend. People are becoming fatigued with contacts trying to build relationship because they want a favor or two. The best time to invest into a relationship is when you don’t have any immediate help from the other person. Connect with people because they have a sweet spirit, shared values and you can open up to them without the being taken for granted. Everybody needs a friend and you can be one.

#12 THE GOD FACTOR IS CRITICAL

My friend, there is more to life than what meets the eyes! The sun may be blazing brightly but we live in a dark, wicked world. Not all those who smile with you mean well. Not all open doors are meant to be entered. For there is a way that seems right to a man but the end result is heartbreak and death! Never think you have all figured out in life, you won’t know what will hit you when you least expect. Allow God to order your steps. Seek his counsel through prayer, reading of His word and meditation.

#13 LIFT SOMEONE UP

The paradox of life is that at any given moment, the resources you have  is never enough to meet all your needs, however your resources are more than enough to meet an urgent need of someone else. You may not enough to buy your dream car, but you can pay the fees of a struggling student or even buy a bicycle for that studious boy at the public school near your house. So don’t focus all your time on your needs. Be a blessing to others. For it is said that you are nothing in life if you don’t help others to become something in life.

 

#14 THE YOUNG SHALL GROW

Remember that the young shall grow! But just make sure that you invest in them so that you are still relevant in their lives. The balance of power will not stay in your hands forever, use your power, position and influence to nurture and promote some young talent whilst you can. Yow will be glad you did in the near future. Many a times you will find a Ghanaian in a position of influence talking down and stressing on the weakness of a young talent instead of shedding light on his/her strengths when there is an opportunity for promotion. Ayoo! One day one day the young shall grow! You will need their favor and they may not be there for you because of your attitude towards them today.

#15 TIME IS THE BEST EQUALIZER OF LIFE

Sometimes things just don’t happen for you even when you have done all your best and pulled all the strings you can. It could be that it is not yet time for that thing to happen, so keep your cool, and trust the process of time when you have paid your dues. I have observed kids grow, and realize that they will learn to sit, crawl, stand, walk, run and talk when the time is up. No parent becomes anxious that her 3- month baby is not walking like other older kids! That breakthrough will come when you least expect it.

#16 YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW, NOT WHERE YOU SOW.

Many of us are embittered by the fact that our efforts are not being recognized by those we are investing our time and effort with. It could be in a relationship or your work place. The good books says that you will reap what you sow, not necessarily where you sow, so leave God to determine where the fruits will come from. Your job is to keep sowing good seeds. The fruits will definitely come!

#17 READ, READ, READ

Cultivate the habit of reading. Open your horizon, feed on the intelligence and insights of people, learn something new, there is always a simpler and smarter way to do things which others have discovered. You should be tired with your boring perspective about life by now. Tap into people’s insights through their books. I bet you will become a better person in 2019 if you do this.

#18 COLLABORATION IS KEY

This “do it all by myself” attitude especially among Ghanaian entrepreneurs is very self-imitating and many at times reduces  a venture with multinational potential to some local “hand to mouth” business. Many entrepreneurs are worried about who takes the credit. They fantasize about the title of CEO, MD, and Chairman etc. I believe it is better to own 50% of $100,000 than to own 100% of a $1000 venture. Bill Gates didn’t build Microsoft alone, Steve Jobs didn’t build Apple alone, Mark Zuckerberg didn’t build Facebook alone, and the list goes on.., Google etc. are all excellent multibillion enterprises birthed out of smart collaborations, so open up and join your forces with others to make that business idea the best it could be.

# FLY WITH THE EAGLES!

You cannot get to the top by dancing with the chicken. The real deal is up there with the eagles. The human mind is such that it stretches or shrinks to the proportion of the exposure it receives. If you walk with smart, intelligent and determined achievers, you will become one in no time. On the other hand, if you hang out with lazy, excuse laden imbeciles who nag and always question the success of others, you will end up at the very low rung of the ladder of life. It is said that “Iron sharpens iron”. If you are the smartest person among your pack of friends for a long time, it means you are not challenging yourself and associating with people who will add value in your life. Yu will become dumb in the long run.

I wish you all the best in 2019.See you at the top!

From the desk of ROL

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THE CALL OF GOD IS NOT ENOUGH

Young Samuel was the one who heard the call from God, but the direction on what to do had to come from the old man Eli.

The older generation will always have a divine role to play in the lives of the younger generation.

Never despise them. Honor them, serve them even if it appears you are more talented, anointed and gifted than them.

Your calling without direction is useless!

Stay blessed!

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SQUATTERS vs. TENANTS

Squatters are attracted to uncompleted projects , pretending that they want to take care of it on the owners behalf, but what they are really interested in is FREE RENT. Their dark wish is for the owner not to ever progress and complete his/her project.

Have you ever come across friends and family who love you for being half baked, but will start having issues with you if you try to progress and excel in life? They are Squatters! Get rid of them before it is too late.

As long as you don’t allow yourself to grow and be perfected by the grace of God, you will only attract squatters, who will only take you for a free ride.

So GROW UP and start attracting responsible people (TENANTS) who will be willing to pay the price(RENT) for your companionship.

If you are too afraid to get rid of the squatters in your life, you will never enjoy the rental fees for your investments!

Stay blessed

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THE BOY WHO GOT STUCK

 

Afolabi was a construction worker, renowned for his dexterity in the use of cement, stones and sand to build the best edifices in town.

He had an enthusiastic five year old son called Ahomka. This boy enjoyed spending his past time with his daddy. He even got to follow his dad to some of the construction sites once in a while. There was one thing which continued to fascinate Ahomka, and this was cement. He was mystified about the idea that a soft mixture of water cement and sand becomes the very hard blocks used for building. He believed there was more to that than what the father keeps telling him and he vowed to himself” I will find out for myself if my dad won’t tell me the whole truth.

On one fateful afternoon, the parents had travelled to a funeral in the nearby city and left Ahomka in the care of their nanny, Auntie Joyce.

Auntie Joyce was feeling tired after all the house chores in the morning. So after feeding Ahomka his launch, she decided to take a nap at the hall with Ahomka lying by her side. Ahomka pretended to be fast asleep and waited patiently till his nanny started hitting some very powerful musical nodes with her loud snoring.

Ahomka woke up swiftly and tip toed outside the hall, straight to his father’s garage, where he had a stash of cement. He fetched a considerable amount and sneaked to the backyard of the house, where he mixed the cement with water and sand, to form a very soft unassuming concrete. Next he stuck his right hand inside and pulled it out, then his left hand, he then said to himself, alas, my dad was lying to me, the solution is still soft. He then reflected about this grand experiment and said, perhaps the concrete will remain soft as long as my hands remain it.

For he has made a great discovery and could not wait for the Father to return to share the good news with.

So Ahomka kept stirring the concrete solution in the washing basin and was happy.

As a child as he was, he soon dozed off as a result of the cool breeze courting his eyes.

After two hours he woke up to his greatest shock, indeed the concrete solution has become hard suddenly, with his right hand stuck in, he started screaming, the nanny got jolted from her sleep and rushed to the direction of the screams, and lo and behold, there sat Ahomka with his hands stuck in the big bowl of cement concrete. Just then, Ahomka’s parents also arrived home to meet the spectacle of Ahomka.

His father quickly rushed him to the hospital to get his hand removed.

By evening, Ahomka’s hands were free again, but thirty years on, he still bears the bruises of his experiment.

Many of us are like Ahomka, for some reasons we believe we are smarter than God and enjoy playing with sin, at the beginning it comes across as if you can easily get away with it, gradually we become bolder and bolder and far deep with our experimentation with sin.

Then reality dawns on us that we have all of a sudden become stuck, we have become slaves and addicts to all kinds of vices, be it corruption, drug abuse, sexual promiscuity, etc.

If we are lucky, we will be set free, with all the collage of bruises and scars staying with us for the rest of our lives. The unlucky ones will get drowned in the drool of their sinful indulgence even to the point of their death.

So what can I say, never get bold with sin, it is a slippery ground and you will slip if you start getting confident about your ability to get away with sin. No you will not get away, you will surely pay for it.

So let’s be circumspect with our lives, and seek to please our maker by living a life that glorifies God.

 

From the desk of ROL

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WHEN PAYING YOUR DUES DOESN’T SEEM ENOUGH

It was my early days as a teen in the small township of Nsawam in the Eastern Region.

My mum could barely raise my school fees let alone provide enough for food and the little luxuries school children deserve.

, but I was determined to make the best out of life. The only alternative for me to get a nice shoe( not the Odamu a ob3nyin type which is twice your foot size in order to accommodate you for the next five years!) , or the latest Casio watch or “brick game”was to save almost all my daily chop money or sometimes walk to school ( the journey was circa 14km).

I had not had the privilege of sitting in a taxi yet, and didn’t have much to say among my friends when they were sharing their taxi experience. My transportation memories were a mixed bag of tro- tro and walking.

I was determined to also have my fair share of the taxi experience, so after saving my “pocket money”for a couple of days, I had enough to jump on a taxi.

I walked past the tro tro station that fateful Monday morning, in my neatly “box iron pressed” school uniform, to the surprise of the tro tro mate, straight to the taxi rank. I made myself comfortable in the front passenger seat, my height was just enough to see beyond a few inches above the dashboard. Soon the taxi was full and we set off towards our destination.

Halfway during the journey, a huge market woman standing by the roadside with the sagging fleshy arms comparable to the width of the trunk of a mahogany tree signaled for the driver to stop. I was confused when the driver obliged, wondering where the woman was going to sit, because to the best of my knowledge, the car capacity of a maximum of five had clearly been written by the side of the the car.

I was even more scandalized when the taxi driver said in an authoritative baritone voice that “ school boy, get down and let your aunt sit at the front, so that you can sit on her laps”

I suddenly choked in my throat trying very hard not to be disrespectful , knowing very well that when I am angry, the things I say do not always complement my calm demeanor, after some few seconds, I managed to put my self together and asked him “WHY?”. The driver was taken aback by my question and replied angrily “ because she is older than you and you must learn to respect your elders” I then asked “ in that case am I going to pay for my taxi fare if I decide to sit on this woman’s laps?” . He replied “ of course you will pay the full amount!” at this point I was losing it and the admonishing of the book of Ephesians regarding respecting the elderly was almost fading in my memory”.

Anyway I managed to calm myself down and retorted “ Mr. Taxi driver, I will not sit on any person’s laps. I am paying the full amount for my seat and I will fully enjoy what I have paid for. If you still insist on picking the market woman, I am happy to get down and pick another taxi , but I won’t pay a dime ! That said I looked straight into the eyes of the taxi driver with all the nodes of frowning I could gather to express my utter disdain” . I could realize he was doing a quick mental calculation in his bully brain- he arrived at the fact that losing half of his fare won’t be a great idea, so he decided to rescind on his decision to pick the ,market woman.

With sanity resorted, he moved his gears and we continued the journey. The rest of journey was marred with his long array of nagging about how the children of nowadays do not respect and a whole lot of bull shit spewing from his uneducated mouth.

I ignored all these and had to even endure the bad mouth odor that accompanied his rants.

When we finally arrived at the station, I opened the door, got down, pulled the carefully stashed cedi notes, handed it to the driver and walked off with a swag akin to a Hollywood celebrity. Another passenger who was sitting at the back of the taxi winked at me and gave me thumbs up. She said to me” school boy, enooaaa Nono, driver Kwame y3 sisifor koraa dodo” literally meaning I am glad you stood against this cheat of a driver.

The lesson here is that in life, sometimes people will try to deny you of what is yours, even when you pay your dues in full.

Don’t allow anybody to take you for a ride.

Pay your dues and go for what is due you… unapologetically.

After all you deserve some accolades 😊😊😊😊

All the best!

From the desk of ROL

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18 LIFE HACKS FOR A SUCCESSFUL 2018

2018 is the year of the entrepreneur. It is a fast paced year laden with opportunities which require the bold and discerning to take advantage of: The following are MUST DOs for an awesome 2018.

1. TAKE RISKS. You should be bored with your routine life all these years. It is time to jump at that dream of yours and make it happen. Are you 100% guaranteed of success? Absolutely NO! , but one thing is guaranteed, you will become a better person!

2. It is the YEAR OF ACTION – Talk-less, do More. Mere talk gets nothing done. Roll up your sleeves, get your hands dirty and show some results!

3. NO PROCRASTINATION- Tomorrow is never yours. The best time to do what you have to do is NOW!

4. MAKE MISTAKES- In fact Lots of them! You only learn and grow when you venture out of your comfort zone. It comes with lots of mistakes and ridicule, but it is worth it.

5. BUILD RELATIONSHIPS with the future in mind instead of present convenience.

6. DO LESS OF SOCIAL MEDIA HYPE. Be real, there are no filters in real life, so stop showing off success which do not exist on social media and get to work on yourself.

7. FORGET THE HATERS MENTALITY My guy, most of the so called haters are imaginary and it turns out to be that most of the times, we are the greatest enemy to our own selves. Focus on fixing you and you will do well in life.

8. STOP BLAMING, it makes you LAME! Take charge of your own life and clean the mess you create. The world needs some grown men and women to run its affairs, not some spoilt irresponsible babies.

9. NOBODY OWES YOU ANYTHING. Focus on paying your dues on this earth and leaving your mark wherever you find yourself. Entitlement and rights without responsibilities is a complete joke.

10. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS – Your instincts are normally a reflection of future possibilities. Don’t nullify it with present realities!

11. CUT DOWN ON OPTIONS – Burn some bridges. Cut down on options. Options tend to be extra baggage that prevents us from paying the price for our dreams.

12. DON’T BE JACK OF ALL TRADES The truth is that you can’t do it all even if you have the ability to do it all. Time is not on your side. Make choices and stick with it.

13. STAY CONNECTED TO THE SOURCE OF LIFE- Don’t be Overdependent on middle men. God wants to have a personal relationship with you.

14. REMAIN POSITIVE – There will be genuine reasons to be pessimistic, but learn to ignore the noise. This may include your favorite morning talk show and some friends.

15. SPEND TIME DOING WHAT YOU ARE TRULY PASSIONATE ABOUT – Life is short, you won’t be here forever, so why don’t you invest time in the one thing that makes you unique from everybody else? Your passions!

16. LEARN TO REST – Your dreams and ambitions are useless without a sound mind and a sound health.

17. TRACK YOUR GROWTH – Document your progress consistently. Get a diary, start blogging about your experiences, joys, disappointments, etc.You will be amazed at how far you have progressed by the end of the year.

18. GET READY FOR DRAMATIC CHANGES – Do not be afraid of the unknown, rather let the unknown excite you.Changes will come thick and fast, embrace it , be resilient and make the best out of it.

Have a phenomenal 2018.

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ITS ALL IN THE MIND

There were four young men in a far distant land in the province of India, who had a common ambition, to become millionaires.

Clueless in what to do, they decided to seek the counsel of the most powerful Guru in their province.

After several weeks of search, they finally came into contact with the Guru.

They each took turns to see the Guru.

The first person was asked, young man, what can I do for you?

He replied, I want to become a millionaire.The Guru said,” that should be an easy fix, but there is only one problem with your request. There can only be one millionaire in the entire province at a time m. Until he dies , no one else can be a millionaire” The young man’s face dropped and with sorrow said” Guru I may never become a millionaire in my life time, because the current millionaire in the province is only 32 years. I am sure he will live longer than myself because of his good living, he has access to the best food and physicians,but I don’t . That said he stormed out of the Guru’s residence and headed back to his village, ready to embrace the fact he will be poor for the rest of his life.

The second young man met the Guru the following day, he also had the same request, for which the Guru gave the same reply as the previous one.

He was pensive for a moment and then his eyes lit up. He shouted to the Guru, ” I know exactly what to do” This 32 year old millionaire is a hindrance to my dreams, I will get rid of him and then become the next millionaire in this province. His plan was to apply for a job as a cook or wine bearer for the rich man and then poison him in the process.The Guru shook his head in disbelief and wished him well in his endeavors.

The third young man also met the Guru, with the same request to become a millionaire. He had the exact answer as the previous friends. He shrugged his shoulders and replied “Que sera sera” meaning what will happen, will happen. He said if God wills, I may become a millionaire one day, maybe the young millionaire may die and it will be my turn. Let me go back and live my life and keep my fingers crossed.

Soon It was the turn of the fourth young man to meet the Guru. His request was the same as the previous three guys, and the Guru had the same answer for him. The young man sat there scratching his head for a while and then started smiling. He then said to the Guru, “if there can only be one millionaire at a time in the entire province, then make me a billionaire” The Guru was startled at the young man’s audacity and sighed. After looking down on the floor intently for over five minutes, he finally lifted his eyes, shook the the hands of the daring young man and said ” son, we have a deal, I will make you a billionaire”

He then showed the young man some ancient business secrets and instructed him on exactly what to do.

The young man left the Guru’s residence, applied all the secrets religiously and within a year, he was a billionaire. Part of the secret was for him to sell all the cattle he inherited from his deceased father , and use the proceeds to buy a piece of land in one of the hinterlands at a very cheap price. Three months after securing that land, some geologists from Britain discoverd a huge deposit of diamond in the land, enough deposits to last at least 80 years, worth hundreds of billion dollars . The mining company , whom the geologists worked for entered into a deal with the young man, paid 10 billion dollars upfront plus a 20% shares in the company. This meant he and his descendants were never going to be poor again!

Soon he was the talk of the town, appearing on Television and in all the key functions.

His three other friends could not understand the sudden turn around of his fortunes so one afternoon, they mustered courage and asked him his secret to all the wealth. He told them he owed it all to the Guru.

They were thrown into fits of rage, cursing the Guru for betraying them.

After a couple of days, the three friends took it upon themselves to visit the Guru again. The moment they saw him, heaps of accusations were thrown at the Guru incessantly for his bias towards their other friend. The Guru allowed them to rant for over two hours and then signaled them to shut up!

He then asked them calmly” for what exactly are you angry at me for?”

They replied in unison, ” for deceiving us into thinking there could only be one millionaire in the entire province at a time.How come you helped our friend to have so much wealth also”

The Guru replied” I never deceived you. There is still only one millionaire in the entire province. You guys saw that as a hinderance to your own dreams, but your friend asked for something bigger, which is to become a billionaire and that is exactly what he has become.

My job is to help you realize your dreams, not to dream for you. The three of you didn’t see any opportunity beyond the millionaire, your friend saw better.

Isn’t it amazing that the obvious is normally not seen? And you have the nerves to be angry and question my integrity?

Fear immediately fell on the three friends who saw the visible anger on the face of the Guru. They laid prostrate and begged for forgiveness. The Guru discharged them from his residence and they left disappointed in themselves for having such a short vision.

In life there is so much room at the top, you don’t have to be discouraged and give up because of someone’s success. And surely it is completely detestable to wish the predicament of a successful person so that you can have a chance.You don’t need to step on someone in order to get to the top.

The most important thing is to have a positive mental attitude, believe in your dreams and abilities and put in the work and you will become who you want to be.

Leave nothing to chance. Rise up and take your place in the corridors of greatness today!

From the desk of ROL

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